Don’t make your happiness conditional. Don’t say, “this or that” needs to be happen, otherwise I can’t be happy. Instead, you need to be happy first and then, after some time, your circumstances will start to reflect this new state of being and “this and that” will happen on it’s own and provide you with further reason to be happy.
But, circumstances can’t change UNTIL you (your state of being) changes. It is like you looking into the mirror and being unhappy about the sad face that is looking back at you. You can do whatever you want, but that face in the mirror won’t start smiling until you smile FIRST!
And life, this physical reality works exactly the same way. If you are happy for no specific reason, your outside reality starts reflecting that happiness back to you through corresponding events, like the flow of money into your life, meeting your dream partner, being successful…
BUT, at this stage you are already happy without all of those exterior conditions. You don’t really need them to be happy, but those new events and circumstances will allow you to even further reinforce your happiness.
That way, you create a positive self-inforcing dynamic, the same way as you can create a negative self-inforcing dynamic by remaining stuck at the opposite part of the emotional spectrum, which is sadness, frustration, anger…
Also, don’t put so much pressure onto yourself about finding happiness. Each time you are saying “I want to be happy, I want to be happy…” you are basically saying “I’m not happy, I’m noty happy…” and you will draw more circumstances into your life that will only confirm your conviction that you are not happy.
Maybe try this simple experiment at least for a day:
Let go of the need to be any different than you are right now, let go of the desire to be happy, just say: “that’s it, I don’t care any longer… I am the way I am my life is the way it is and I’m ok with it…” Let go of all the pressure, take off the weight of your shoulders – LIGHTEN UP!
Just be, simply allow yourself to be the you, you are right now with all of your so-called flaws, imperfections and shortcomings. Stop pursuing and longing for anything else than what is right now. Fully allow yourself, allow and accept the moment as it is without trying to force, reject or change anything.
Let go of your resistance against what is and simple enjoy the feeling of lightening up. Don’t allow your mind to judge what is. Your mind will always try to convince you that this and that is not right…
Just enjoy this new state of freedom, this easiness that comes with letting go of the need to be any different than you are.
You know, what you resist always persists. And this means, you can’t become anyone different than you are right now until you fully accept and own who you are right now. Once you fully accept the you, you are right now, you make room for change and things can get unstuck as soon as you stop fighting and resisting agaist yourself.
Also, there is no need to search for happiness or to do anything specific to find happiness. When you search for happiness, all you are doing is confirming that right now you are not happy and out of this vibration of lack you won’t be able to experience happiness.
Happiness is your most natural state of being and it simply happens when you let go of all the blocking and disturbing beliefs and thoughts that cover up your happiness and make it impossible for you to feel and experience it.
If you take everything away from you that doesn’t really belong to you, such as those limiting and unaligned beliefs, there will only be happiness left. Those limiting beliefs are like the dark clouds that cover up the sun and once they are gone, only the bright blue sky and the warming sun will be left.
Happiness is who you really are. It is an integral part of you and you can NEVER lose it. However, you can temporarily lose sight of it you get stuck in one of those illusions created by your spinning mind.
But, whenever that happens, you can simply decide to let go of those limiting and false beliefs and bring back the bright blue sky of joy and happiness.
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