There Is Only One Goal, One Purpose, One Mission In Your Life: Being You

 
What do you really want to do, who do you want to be? Just imagine, nothing can go wrong, no one will judge you, no one will give you strange looks… let go of all your doubts, fears and worries. Let go of all ideas about what you are supposed to do and who you are supposed to be.

Now, whatever you want to do, whoever you want to be… ask yourself the following question: is it in resonance with who you really are, does it fit, do you feel a sense of harmony, does it correspond with the real You…?

Because that’s all that really counts. It doesn’t matter what anyone might think about you and what you intend to do. This is your life, you are unique, no one is like you and because of that, your path is unique as well. Absolutely no one can know what is best for you. This is impossible, because no one is you.

Only you can know what is in harmony with you and it is all about that harmony, that effortless and joyous flow and once you feel that energy, you have found your way and you are fulfilling your purpose.

Because, there is only one big purpose, one really important goal, one mission that absolutely counts in your life: being the real You, being your natural Self, being the most authentic You, you can be.

And once you start to fully express the real, authentic you, life becomes a joyous and effortless explosion of synchronistic events, everything starts to unfold easily and naturally, things start falling into place…

That’s how life is supposed to work, but it can work like that only if you are You. If you live your life the way you are “supposed” to, the way others want you to live your life… then you prevent the natural and intelligent energy of life to flow freely, you prevent true joy, true happiness, true abundance and freedom to flow into your experience effortlessly and naturally.

So, just be YOU and everything else will fall into place, everything else will happen naturally and you will have everything you could ever dream of.

 
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You Are Already 100% Worthy – No Matter What

 
Our society (at least the bigger part of it) has a very narrow minded definition of worthiness. According to those standards and measures, a person is “really” worthy if he/she has a beautiful body, wealth and a certain status or position in society.

Of course, most people won’t admit that they judge the worthiness of a person by those measures, because they don’t want to be labeled as being superficial. And, I’m sure, a large number of people judge by those measures without even realizing it, without even being conscious about it.

Nonetheless, if you are overweight, if you have a longer nose than the average person, if you are poor, if you are not successful – according to the standards in our society… many people will still consider you to be less worthy than other members of society.

Is it really worth making an effort to meet those standards?

Sure, there is always something you can do in order to meet those nonsensical standards. You could go to the gym 5 times a week and push yourself as hard as you can to finally get what they call a “beautiful” body, you could work day and night to make a lot of money and buy a big house… and you can do many other stupid things.

But, if you do those things only to meet a pointless standard, then you will only hurt yourself and you won’t gain anything at the end. Yes, you may achieve certain things, but you won’t be happier and most probably you won’t feel worthier than before. Something will always be missing. Some people will always look better than you. Some people will always have more money than you…

It is a waste of time and energy to do something ONLY to be considered as worthy and to gain the respect of the sleeping masses who are stuck in illusion. Don’t do it, because you will never find happiness in the process.

Of course, I don’t have anything against going to the gym, or against working 14 hours a day… if that’s what really excites you, if that’s what fills you with joy, then by all means, do it.

It only becomes a problem if you sacrifice yourself doing something you DON’T really like, just to gain the respect of others and to improve your feeling of self-worth.

You are already worthy!

The truth is, you are already 100% worthy. You are absolutely unique, no one is like you and no one in this world will or could ever fill your place. If you – your unique energy – would no longer exist, the universe would not be complete anymore – an important piece of the puzzle would be missing.

Therefore, you are absolutely worthy. But, it is still up to you, to express your worthiness. And, the only way to fully express your worthiness is by being the real, true, natural You. Not a facade or a mask, but the real you, the you that is required in order to fill the void and to make this universe complete.

Yes, you are already 100% worthy – that’s a fact. But, what if you don’t feel worthy? This usually means that you are not YOU – you are not expressing your true, natural self.

As soon as you start connecting with the real You, you will become more of the real You, you will express more of the real You and your feeling of self-worth will automatically increase. Suddenly, you will feel that you are finally at the right place. The new You, the divine you will simply replace the old you. And how could this divine you not be 100% worthy.

The old You is only an illusion, an artificial persona defined by limiting beliefs that were given to you by your parents, teachers, religion, society… Let go of those limiting beliefs and the real you, the divine you will shine through and express itself.

Money and success don’t necessarily lead to happiness and the feeling of increased self-worth

I know several people who are very rich and successful and they told me that their success neither made them happier, nor did it increase their feeling of self-worthiness.

Of course, in the long run, success and wealth will neither increase your happiness, nor will it diminish it. If you do what you love to do and if you are your true self, you will feel good – no matter if you have little money or a lot of it.

On the other hand, if you do things you don’t really like just to get rich and to achieve a certain status in society, it will be impossible to find happiness and fulfillment in the process until you start expressing your true, natural self.

And most probably you won’t feel very worthy neither, because deep down you will realize that your time is fading away and that what you are doing day-in and day-out doesn’t really make much sense. You may be able to fool everyone around you, but you can’t really fool yourself.

So, don’t misunderstand me, I’m not saying that being successful, earning a lot of money, having a certain status in society… will make you unhappy or have a negative impact on your feeling of self worth.

The only thing that really matters is to be yourself, to express the true You. And, if that leads to success, wealth… than this is absolutely great and fine. But, don’t think that you need those things in order to be happy and to feel worthy, because if you go after something in a way that doesn’t correspond with who you really are, you will get just the opposite.

Make it a daily habit to feel your true, natural self

Every day, take a few minutes to feel your true, natural self. The world needs the real, true You – that’s the biggest contribution you can make to this world, that’s your unique value, your real worth. Allow yourself to feel how worthy and important you are.

If you are not You, something is missing and the universe will be less harmonious. If you decide to express the real you, your example will encourage others to do the same and that way you can literally start an explosion of harmony, joy, happiness, deeper understanding… in this world.

Your Quest For A Better Future Could Make You Miss Your Entire Life

 
“The power for creating a better future is contained in the present moment: You create a good future by creating a good present.” – Eckhart Tolle

You may think that once you have that breakthrough, once you succeed in your business, once you are finished with school, once you get your dream house, once you make it into upper management, once you find your dream partner… life will just be great.

But, that’s an illusion. If you can’t live in the present moment, if your mind is constantly occupied dreaming about “that big moment” somewhere and sometime in the future, then NOTHING will ever change.

No matter what you do, no matter what you may achieve, you will always feel the same. There will always be this void within you, this restlessness, this feeling, that something is missing.

If you say, that once you get this or that, life will be great, you are also making a statement that right now, your life is not ideal, something is missing, something isn’t the way it should be…

And that’s the problem, that’s the trap. Because, there simply is no future, it is only a concept in your mind. All you have, all you ever had and all you will ever have is the NOW. It is this eternal moment in which EVERYTHING happens.

Unlock yourself from the illusion…

So, if you say, right now, life isn’t the way it should be, then you are locked into a specific vibration, a vibration of lack, boredom, maybe even frustration… And all events, all happenings in your life will be filtered through that vibration.

And that vibration, that state of being, of course makes it impossible for you to feel and experience overflowing joy, happiness, excitement… Even when those great achievements come, there will only be a short lived, temporary excitement and soon after, everything will be back to “normal” – because your mind will still be projected towards an even better future and again, your mind will tell you that “Now” just isn’t ideal yet and that things will be perfect in the future.

 You can only experience what you are, what corresponds with your inner state of being. And, unless you unlock from the illusion of “the future will be better”, you won’t be able to move into the state of “Now is fantastic, Now is great, Now my being is flooded with happiness…”

And, as soon as you move into the state of ” Now is great…”, sooner or later, your outer circumstances will reflect that new state of being and present you with events that correspond with what you call joy and happiness. And you will experience them in the NOW!

But, I know I will succeed and be happy if I make the necessary sacrifices…

Now, if you hang in there, if you make those sacrifices, if you work really hard… there is a good chance that you will finally get what you initially thought would be so important for you. But, you will see, once you get it, it simply won’t be important any longer to you.

Yes, there will be a few days or even weeks of excitement, but your mind will already have chosen a new goal, a bigger and  more exciting goal. The initial excitement will quickly fade away, you will feel more or less the way you felt your entire life, you will compare yourself with people who achieved “more” than you and you will say: “yes, that’s what I want, I can do it in 5 years and then I will be happy forever…”

And the game will start all over. Again, you will say: “now, my life is ok, but it’s not really what I want, something is still missing, but I’m getting there…”

Be careful, you may end up wasting your entire life…

And if you are not careful, you will waste your entire life chasing that illusory carrot that’s always tangling just in front of you. You will spend your entire life waiting for that big moment, but it will never come.

That big moment you desire more than anything else can’t be found in future achievements, it is already here – right now. And it can only be experienced in the here and now. If you cling to that illusion of “once I get this or that in the future, everything will be great…”, you will miss the “big moment” Now and again Now and Now…

If your life is only focused on future achievements – in 3 years I make this happen, then 5 more years to get there, another 4 years to achieve this and that… – people around you will think you are hugely successful, they will flatter you, they will envy you… but within, you will always feel this nagging void, this lack of fulfillment, this eternal dissatisfaction.

It doesn’t matter what others think about you, the only thing that matters is how YOU feel. What’s the point of spending your entire life creating this facade of artificial greatness and success, if it doesn’t make you happy? It is just not worth it wasting your entire life.

Deep within, you know your life is only successful if you spend most of it in joy, happiness and fulfillment – no matter what you achieve or how much money you make in the process.

Life should be lived like a dance or like a great symphony…

Live your life like a dance, like a symphony. When you listen to your favorite song, you simply enjoy every single note of it in the here and now and you don’t try to rush to the end of the song as quickly as possible in order to prove that you can listen faster than anyone else. This simply wouldn’t make any sense, yet in a way, that’s how many people live their life.

Imagine listening to your favorite song – you simply enjoy the moment, you allow yourself to get carried away, you are simply feeling good, you are great where you are right now… You are so immersed in your joy that nothing else matters that very moment. And, that’s how you should live your life.

Pick something you absolutely love, you are absolutely passionate about and get 100% immersed in it. Just allow every day, every moment to be filled with joy. Be happy with the moment and don’t fall for the illusion that things will only be perfect once you get that breakthrough.

You simply enjoy the endless chain of Now and at the same time you will get better and better at what you are doing and those big achievements will happen on their own.

And, when they come, you will enjoy them in the Now as you enjoyed all other Now’s and most probably, those achievements won’t matter that much anymore, because by then, every moment of your life will already be filled with all the joy you ever dreamed of and absolutely nothing will be missing.

Life only happens in the here and now and if you are always in the pursuit of a better life sometime in the future, you will miss everything. Your life will be empty, stale, without juice and without any real essence.

So, live your life like a marvelous symphony and enjoy one delicious note after another flowing into this eternal moment, into this never ending Now!

9 Energy Vibrations To Completely Transform your Life

 
All you really want in life is to experience your true nature – the love, passion, joy, greatness… you already are.

You don’t really want to achieve all those goals lingering in your mind, you don’t really want to get anywhere else than where you are right now, you don’t really want to do more, be more, have more… The only reason why you desire all those things is because you think they will provide you with the experience and feeling of love, passion, joy, peace, security…

What you desire so much, is already yours. But, the tragedy is, by chasing all those illusions OUTSIDE of you, you are actually moving away from what you REALLY want. Instead of closing the gap, you are actually making it bigger.

All the “things” you really want, are not only already right in front of you, they are within you, they are YOU!  So, stop running around in circles, become aware of your true nature and you will realize and experience the wonders that are already lying within you.

The key to letting go of the illusory veil and to see clearly is to move into specific energy vibrations that correspond with who you really are.

Those 9 energy vibrations are listed below and I suggest you “play” with them for at least a few minutes every day or as long as you want. While doing so, remain playful and practice those energy exercises with love, passion and excitement.

Have fun and feel as good as possible while playing with those 9 energy vibrations. Don’t approach it as an everyday “must-do” exercise, don’t push and force, don’t strive for perfection… let go of your mind and simply enjoy your Self while moving into those energy vibrations.

How To Use Those 9 Energy Vibrations:

Each vibration reflects your true nature and represents a very specific energy or state of being. The goal is to move into each of those vibrations, to become aware and to consciously experience those energy states. That way you will become more and more aligned with your true nature and you will resonate more and more with who you really are.

You can quickly move into any of those 9 energy vibrations, simply by repeating the corresponding affirmations (listed below) either out loud or silently. Do it from your heart and not from your mind. That way, you will immediately feel and “move into” the corresponding vibration and state of being, which is already part of your true nature.

The next step is to amplify the vibration and to stay in it as long as possible. You do this, by keeping all your focus on the energy vibration, while you remain joyful and relaxed.

Here are a few ideas on how you can intensify those energy vibrations:

  • Use visualization to amplify a specific energy vibration. For example: “I’m open and wide” – simply imagine how you are growing like a balloon, how you are becoming “wider and wider” until you are one with all existence, enjoy the feeling of absolute freedom, fully open your mind… Be creative and visualize, feel, hear… whatever helps you most.
  • Meditate about those vibrations and move deeply into them.
  • Communicate with your higher self and write down whatever comes to your mind. Have fun discovering all those little facets about the various energy vibrations.
  • If you want, add your own ideas to the statements listed below. You can even change and transform them if you prefer to – just make sure the underlying energy vibration remains the same.
  • Wrap an entire “story” around those energy vibrations, make an exciting mind movie and use any tool that may help you to amplify and to stay longer in the desired energy vibration.
  • Do as many short (30 – 60 seconds) energy vibration exercises throughout the day as possible. This allows you, to quickly move back into the corresponding state of being and to stay there for most of the day.

You could play every day with a different energy vibration, or you could focus on a specific vibration for an entire week before moving on to the next. You could also use all 9 vibrations every single day.

Listen to your own intuition and use those 9 vibrations in whatever way resonates most with you and provides you with the most joy.

Start each day (immediately after waking up) with any of those 9 energy vibrations and do the same before falling asleep.

The 9 Energy Vibrations:

  • I’m Open And Wide
  • I’m Crystal Clear
  • I’m Flowing – Smooth And Gentle As Water
  • I’m Connected And Aligned – With Who I Really Am
  • I’m Immersed In This One, Everlasting, Eternal Moment
  • Everything I Do Is Filled With Love, Passion And Excitement
  • I Fully Trust In The Process – Everything Unfolds The Way It Is Supposed To
  • I Deeply Enjoy Expressing My True, Unique Nature – I Let Go Of All Thoughts And Beliefs That Don’t Really Belong To Me
  • I AM – I Unconditionally Love Myself

This is who you really are, this is your true nature – you simply need to allow it. Immerse yourself into these energy vibrations and start expressing more and more of the REAL You.

By becoming the real YOU, your life will start unfolding in a new and magnificent way – a way you probably never experienced before.

For the first time in your life you will BE truly full-filled – with everything you ever dreamed of and much more. You will feel fully awake, aware and alive.

Everything in your life will suddenly start falling in place – exactly the way it was meant to be. All your worries, doubts and fears will simply fade away. And, you will no longer feel the need to chase all sorts illusions outside of you, because you will realize and understand that NOTHING outside of you can give you the joy and fulfilment you are longing for.

All of this is simply a result of being the REAL YOU!

So, go and play with those 9 energy vibrations. Use them every day, have fun and enjoy those magnificent states of being.

Once you are comfortably with those energy vibrations, go and teach others to do the same. Tell your friends, your family members and everyone who is open for it. But, don’t enforce it on anyone.

Tell and teach others in a way that is aligned with those 9 energy vibrations: Be open, be clear, be passionate, be smooth and gentle…

And, of course, integrate those vibrations into your own life and align all your thoughts and actions – your entire being – with those energies.

A Simple Solution If You Have An Idea, A Project, A Big Dream… And You Don’t Know How To Get Started Or How To Move Forward

 
You have a dream, maybe even a very big dream. It could be something you always wanted to do, or maybe something that came up just recently. But, the problem is, you don’t know how to get started or how to proceed, you don’t know what to do next, what should or must be done, and in what order…

But, will this stop you from going after your dream? No, surely not, because it’s not as difficult and complicated as it may seem right now. And it doesn’t really matter if you want to learn a foreign language, write a book or build a Fortune 500 company.

Things are inherently simple – if you allow them to be so.

Of course, if you prefer to believe that something is overwhelmingly complicated and difficult to achieve you are free to create that experience as well. But, it doesn’t have to be that way.

Of course, there will always be challenges, but they are healthy and exciting and there is no need to suffer and struggle.

So, how should you go about your project?

The important thing is to get started taking at least some sort of action. But, before taking any action, it is important that you get into the right “state”. If you act from a state of worry doubt and fear, it will be impossible to create anything meaningful.

You need to act from a vibration of excitement, belief, joy, motivation, drive, confidence… Visualize your project, dream and get excited about it, feel as if it is already your reality.

This is the all-important fundament you need to build first. It is like creating a solid fundament for a house. Without it, the house will come crashing down sooner or later. And it is no different for any other project – without a solid energetic base, your endeavor will never be able to take off.

However, this base work of creating an inner energy state that corresponds with and supports your goal isn’t a one-off job – it requires regular maintenance.

But, don’t get too serious about it. Ideally, you shouldn’t be “serious” at all, because this will prevent you from moving into a high vibratory state – one that reflects positive excitement, motivation, drive and joy.

Take a playful attitude, enjoy the process and don’t try to push and force things into a certain direction. Simply have fun and enjoy yourself and everything else will unfold in the most beneficial way.

If you proceed in such a way and always act from a state of passion and excitement, the end results may not necessarily correspond exactly with your initial vision, but it will always allow you to experience the maximum amount of joy and satisfaction in the realization of your goal as well as along the way.

Finally getting started and taking the first steps…

After doing your base-work for a while, your level of excitement, confidence and motivation for your project should be quite good. And, from that state of being, you can simply ask your Self how to best get started or what to do next.

You may get an answer immediately, but it could also be delivered to you by any kind of “messenger” a few hours or days later. The messenger could be a friend, a person you never met before, a book, an article in the newspaper, a documentary… really anything.

When the answer comes, you will know it and feel it and then you simply take action on the information you receive. And that’s also how you keep moving forward.

At the beginning, your vision on how you should proceed may be very limited. But, with each step you move forward, with each inspired action you take, things will become clearer.

It is a bit like walking in the fog. You may only see 20 or 30 meters forward, but as you keep walking, a part of the path you couldn’t see before becomes visible and ultimately the fog will disappear completely and you will have a crystal clear vision of where you are going and what’s going on around you.

If there are various possibilities to choose from, pick the one that excites you most and that resonates most with you. Be careful not to slip into fearful thinking, such as: If I make the wrong decision, I will fail and I will never be able to realize my dream…

The truth is, there aren’t really any wrong decisions, because everything that happens, happens for a good reason and is part of a much bigger and more important process. And, the goal of this process is to allow you to become the real you, to let go of everything that doesn’t really belong to you and to fully express your true nature.

When you let go of everything that doesn’t really belong to you, the only thing that will be left is pure love, joy, peace and happiness. But, the good news is, you will ALWAYS be moving in that direction, the events and circumstances in your life will always pull you in that direction, so simply trust the process and enjoy the ride.

And yes, there are so-called success recipes for just everything, but there is no success guarantee. Those recipes may work wonderfully for you or they may not. Maybe certain parts will work and others won’t.

The important question is, if a specific plan or recipe resonates with YOU. If you have to force and push in order to execute your plan and if there is absolutely no joy and excitement, it is definitely not the right plan for you and you should look for a different approach.

Also, an existing approach can be pretty good for you, but it will never be perfect. You are unique and that’s why your personal approach also needs to be unique. You may be able to borrow 90% from someone else’s experience, but the remaining 10% will need to come from You, from the guidance you receive from your higher Self and this will also be the most exciting part of your project.

So, here you go, this is your very simple solution to get any endeavor or project successfully started and to move forward with joy and excitement

  • Do some “base-work” first and move into a vibration of joy, excitement, motivation, confidence… before taking any action.
  • Ask your questions, let go and remain open and aware for the answers.
  • When an answer comes and you feel excited about it, take action on it. Always take action on what resonates most with you and what excites you most.
  • Just keep on moving forward using the same simple formula over and over again.

A Simple Way To Get Rid Of Your Worries, Doubts And Fears And To Replace Them With Joy And Happiness

 
It seems like, worry, doubt and fear is a very widespread “illness” in our society. Almost everyone seems to worry that this and that may happen. A lot of people are worried about their future, their financial situation, that their husband or wife may leave them, that they may get ill, have a terrible accident… and there are surely hundreds of other worries and fears.

Are you one of them? Do you worry too much as well?

Living in constant worry, doubt and fear makes your life miserable and it takes away all your joy, fun and happiness.

What for? Most of the terrible things you imagine and you are afraid of actually never happen anyway. Just look back at the last 10 years of your life and analyze all those worries and fears that crossed your mind and caused you sleepless nights.

How much of it did actually come true? Probably very little. On the other hand, things may have happened you didn’t even imagine or think about.

So, why spending weeks, months and even years worrying about something that probably never happens? It just doesn’t make any sense to torture yourself because of something that only exists in your mind and has nothing to do with your current reality.

Let’s say, because of certain events and circumstances your logic tells you “things don’t look good…” and you start worrying. Here is what happens: 

  • Because of your worries and fears, you will start feeling worse and worse.
  • Whenever there is an event you would normally enjoy, those nagging fears will take away most of the joy.
  • Staying for a long time in the emotion of worry and fear will not only make you tired, but it will also make you more prone for illness.
  • As within, so without. If you spend most of your time in worry and fear, you will also create unpleasant events and circumstances in your life that correspond with the energy of fear. In other words, there is a good chance that you will actually manifest what you are so afraid of – just because you constantly think and worry about it.

In other words, there is absolutely nothing good that can come from spending only even 1 second in worry, doubt or fear.

If I could see at least 1 tiny advantage you could get out of worrying, I would say: “Yes, every now and then worry for a few minutes, because it is good for…” But, there is absolutely nothing positive about those negative emotions and that’s why I suggest you simply banish worry, doubt and fear from your life.

That’s right, you no longer need those emotions, you are done with them, so, just let go of them.

But, bad things happen to people every day…

Of course, unpleasant things happen to all of us. BUT,  to constantly worry about what could happen won’t prevent unpleasant things from happening. Quite the contrary, that’s actually a very efficient way to attract more unpleasant things into your life.

Yes, unpleasant things happen. But when they happen, we simply deal with them, we find a solution and we grow through them. We become bigger, wiser, better…

And believe me, tackling those challenging situations is far easier from a positive mindset than from a mindset that’s entrenched in worry, doubt and fear.

Also, you may have already realized that being in the middle of a storm and dealing with a challenging situation actually feels better than the state of dense fear that only exists in your imagination and is created out of the constant worry that something bad MIGHT happen sometime in the future.

So, I think we can agree that spending even a minute in doubt and fear won’t add anything positive to your life.

But, the big question is how can you get rid of your worries and fears?

You say, those emotions just overtake your life and there isn’t much you can do about it. That’s wrong, because those worries and fears are simply the result of unhealthy thoughts and beliefs you engaged in over and over again – thousands of times.

The exact same way you created those fears, you can also get rid of them and replace them with much better feeling emotions. All you need to do is to change those core beliefs that lead to negative thoughts, which in turn create your worries and fears.

You may smile about the child who is afraid of the green monster in the closet, but most of the worries and fears of us adults are not any more real.

Just think about some of your fears – right now, they are only a product of your imagination. Once something unpleasant happens, you are no longer afraid of it, because it already happened and you have to deal with it. But then you may be afraid of what could happen next. And again, at that stage, “what could happen next” will only exist in your imagination.

Back to our anti-fear solution…

  • Yes, figure out what are your negative core beliefs that lead to fearful thoughts and emotions. Then, look at them, analyze them, turn them around… and realize that they have no validity and let them go.
  • Become aware of your negative thoughts that cause those nasty, fearful emotions. Whenever you catch yourself indulging in those kinds of thoughts, just say stop and simply refuse to think any more of those thoughts that don’t do you any good.

The process is simple, but it will take some time and practice to establish the habit of “dropping unbeneficial thoughts” and “changing the topic” towards something more positive.

I always recommend to keep a daily diary where you write down how many bad thoughts you caught and threw out of the window, how long it took you to become aware of a train of negative thoughts, how easy or difficult it was to change the topic… and anything else that seems interesting and helpful to you.

Your current way of thinking and being unconscious about your thoughts is a habit you probably built over several decades. This has become a very strong habit and it won’t be possible to break it in only a few days and replace it with a completely new one. So, please be patient.

Every day, make a conscious effort to break those old patterns and don’t judge your immediate results. Give it at least 2 months – that’s not very long – and you will have formed a tremendously powerful and positive way to control and consciously direct your thoughts, which will allow you to get rid of your worries and fears for good.

Why You Should Stop Seeking For The Love, Approval And Appreciation Of Others

 
We all love to be appreciated by others and to get their approval and respect. Our ego simply thrives on it. But, there is also a big problem with that: It keeps us from growing and it keeps us from being truly happy and fulfilled and from living our life to the fullest.

But why? After all, getting the respect and approval of others feels quite good. What should be wrong with that?

You know, if you want the approval and respect of others, you are not allowed to make mistakes, you can’t fail in what you are doing, you can’t really be yourself, because that’s just strange and weird…

In other words, you need to be, do and have more or less what everyone around you is doing, being and having. Just put on a nice smile and pretend you are happy and fulfilled. And if you can afford a car that’s slightly bigger than your neighbors, then everyone will think you really made it – what an amazing and exciting life that will be.

Yes, just make sure you never make any mistakes, you never fail in anything you do and always try to meet the expectations of everyone around you and you’ll get all the respect, approval and appreciation your ego is longing for.

Unfortunately, this won’t allow you to have an exciting and fulfilled life…

You know it, if you want to be happy and fulfilled and if you want to lead a truly exciting and special life, this approach surely won’t work.

An exciting and fulfilled life is something you create, something you grow into by making mistakes and by learning from them, by finding the real and unique you and by expressing it.

That’s the only way and it is a fantastic and exciting way. However, when you walk that path, you won’t get much approval, respect and appreciation from most people around you – especially at the beginning. No, instead you will get a healthy dose of laughter and ridicule and yes, most probably they will also call you a dreamer and a loser.

But that’s fine, that’s good, because learning to be yourself, having the courage to express your unique nature no matter what other’s may think or say is one of the most important lessons in life. It’s what will give you true freedom and allow you to reach heights in your life you would never be able to reach otherwise.

Just be yourself, that’s really all you need to do…

All that really counts is to appreciate and love yourself. You are the way you are and that’s perfect. You are unique and you owe it to yourself and to the rest of the world to express your uniqueness.

Don’t allow your ego to sabotage your way to happiness, success and personal freedom. Don’t care what others may think or say about you, because it doesn’t matter. Care only what you think about yourself and do whatever it takes so that you can think of yourself in the best way possible.

All people who achieved extraordinary things in their life were laughed at and ridiculed at the beginning. They were called losers, dreamers, strange and weird. But, once they reached the top, they were suddenly celebrated and called geniuses and extraordinary achievers.

It doesn’t really make any sense, but that’s just what the masses do.  So, once again, the best advice is just not to pay too much attention to what others may think or say about you.

To create an extraordinary life, to find happiness and fulfillment and to live your life to the fullest, you will have to do various “unpopular” things:

  • You can’t restrict yourself to do only things of which you are absolutely sure that you won’t fail and that you won’t make any mistakes. Every now and then you will have to leave the trampled paths and try out new things. This means, you will need to learn something new and quite naturally you will make mistakes and you will have some failures here and there. And yes, some people who never tried anything new in their entire life will call you a loser and it may hurt a bit at the beginning.
  • Fulfillment comes only once you start living YOUR life. And this means you need to embrace and express the real, unique you. Just give it a try, it’s the most amazing and exciting thing you can do in your life. But, yes, of course, there will be many people around you who expect you to be just like anyone else and they will call you weird and strange.
     
    But, fortunately you know that there is absolutely nothing strange about expressing your uniqueness – it’s actually the best thing you can do and everyone should do it.
  • Simply learn to trust in your gut feeling and intuition and do what feels best for you. How should anyone else know what’s best for you? Most people don’t even know what’s best for themselves, so how should they know what’s best for others. Only you can know what’s best for you. Others can give you tips and advice, but the final decision, what to do will always be up to you.

 
When others laugh about you, when they call you strange and a loser… it’s actually a good sign, because now you know that you finally left the crowded roads that don’t really lead anywhere and that you picked a better way that leads to happiness and fulfillment and that promises a truly exciting life – what more could you wish for?

Be proud of yourself, because now you are really growing, now you are moving forward. It takes a lot of courage to be willing to step into the unknown, to risk failure, to be different than the rest and to do things most people are too scared to do. On the other hand, it doesn’t take anything special to be like anyone else and to do what everyone else is doing.

How To Develop Laser-Like Focus And Easily Achieve Your Goals

 
If you want to succeed in life, if you want to get what you desire most, if you want to achieve your goals… you need to master the art of focus.

And of course, this doesn’t only apply to succeeding in your business, advancing your career or improving your financial situation. It holds true for every aspect of your life: finding more fulfillment, creating better relationships, advancing on your spiritual path, improving your health, learning a new set of skills…

One of the main reason for failure (in any area of life) is the lack of focus. If you are not laser-like focused on what you want, it will either be very difficult for you to obtain it or it will take much longer than necessary.

On the other hand, if you can master the art of focus it will be relatively easy for you to reach your goals and you will be able to make it happen really fast.

Focus means nothing else than identifying your most important “task” and giving 100% of your attention to it. You melt with your task, you become one with it and there is nothing else.

There are no disturbing thoughts that have nothing to do with your task, no wandering mind, there is no multi-tasking, no web surfing or checking your emails… you are completely immersed in whatever you identified as your primary task to reach your goal.

And, when I’m talking about this “most important task”, it could be anything: a specific work task, a vision you hold in your mind, a specific way to treat your partner, a set of daily rules and habits…

It is something that should always be at least at the back of your mind. A part of you should always be in a state where you see yourself as having already achieved your goal. Over time, this will become your personal guidance system that will immediately tell you as soon as you start moving away from your goal, so that you can instantly re-focus.

Attaining and keeping this state of laser like focus takes some practice, discipline and time. People often think they are focused, but in most cases they are not.

Yes, they may be working on an important task, but their mind is wondering around, they are thinking about something else, they may be checking their emails every 30 minutes or getting distracted by all sorts of things that are going on around them…

They may be sincerely wishing to improve their relationship, but then they keep on doing the same things that harm their relationship…

They may have a strong desire to improve their financial situation, they take some important actions, but at the same time they remain locked in a state of fear and worry of slipping into poverty…

Laser-like focus means, ALL your beliefs, thoughts, feelings and actions are fully aligned with your goal – all day long, day in, day out.

If you want to succeed financially, you cannot hold on to beliefs like: money is bad, money corrupts people, or that you will never be rich, because you don’t have the right education…

If you want to lose weight, it is not a good idea to eat two tablets of chocolate every day, you are not focused when you look into the mirror every day and tell yourself that you are fat…

Your focus needs to become your life attitude. You need to start living and breathing the complete alignment with your goal every second of your life.
 

A few simple ideas to get more focused:

I recommend you stop every now and then and ask yourself if you are really focused and aligned or if you are walking in the opposite direction of where you want to go. Whenever you realize that you are not fully focused, simply bring the focus back. Be patient and use a playful attitude. Developing a sharp focus takes some time and practice.

It is also a great idea to keep a daily diary and to make a note of everything that distracts you. Make a note of all your beliefs, thoughts, feelings and actions that are not aligned with your goal. That way, you became more aware of the things that disturb your focus and it will be much easier to get rid of them.

Once you become aware of your main distracters, make a firm resolution to let go of those thoughts, habits, actions… that keep you from reaching your goal.
 

However, before you can apply a laser like focus, a few other requirements need to be handled first:

#1 – Get a crystal clear vision of what you want:

You are not applying focus just for the sake of applying focus. You are using your focus to achieve your goals. And, this means, first you need to get absolutely clear what you want.

What drives you, what excites you, what will pull you forward? This is about what you want, not what your parents want, not what your friends may think is great, not what your society thinks is worthwhile to achieve…

If you connect with your passion, with your heart’s desire, it will be relatively easy and natural to remain fully focused on your goal. You will literally be pulled towards your goal.

On the other hand, if you do something that doesn’t really correspond with your heart’s desire – for example, because you want to impress someone or feel more respected in your society… – keeping a strong focus will be very difficult and you will constantly need to push yourself.

Also, if you have a crystal clear vision of what you want, you will be able to come up with a great plan on how to achieve your goal and the clearer and more lively your vision is the more drive and energy you will find to make it happen.
 

#2 – Create a plan:

Once you have a clear vision of what you want, you can get started to create a plan on how to get there. Depending on the complexity of your goal, you may need to do some research, read some autobiographies and books… to identify the required action steps.

Your first plan won’t be perfect, but it will be good enough to get you started. Don’t worry to get everything perfect right from the start – it is impossible. Just keep on learning, take action, move forward and adapt your plan as you go.

At the beginning, you won’t have all the elements, but the stronger your focus grows, the more ideas, people, strategies, action steps… to achieve your goal will be attracted into your life.
 

#3 – Identify your most important tasks and fully focus on them:

Once you have a basic plan, identify the most important steps and tasks. Those are the tasks you need to focus on. There will be one or a few major tasks and maybe hundreds of other tasks and you won’t be able to get everything done, and that’s fine.

Just focus on the most important things – the habits, thought patterns, action steps… that provide the quickest way towards your goals.
 

At this stage, you know pretty well what needs to be done and what needs to be avoided and all you have to do is to direct your focus towards those things that are aligned with your goal and retract your focus from everything that is not aligned with your goal.
 

I know, it’s easier said than done and that’s why I would like to provide you with some additional tips to make it easier for you to focus:

  • Be aware that the more you focus, the faster you will reach your goal and the more you will ENJOY your life. This may be a bit uncomfortable at the beginning, but only at the beginning. Soon it will become a new habit and you will be “flying” towards your goal.
  • All those things that “distract” you: endlessly surfing the web, thinking the same old (negative) thoughts again and again, watching too many videos on YouTube, eating the wrong foods, not going for a run… may feel comfortable in the short run, but they hurt you in the long run, because they keep you from living the life of your dreams – and nothing hurts more.
  • Don’t get discouraged and lose your focus if things don’t work out immediately. Simply commit to give your best, keep going, enjoy yourself and be proud of yourself. That’s really all you can do and that’s all you need to do to make your dreams come true.